Confessions of a Passionate Blogger

There’s always more to life than meets the eye. From the outside, the life of a blogger seems dreamy and beautiful, almost unreal, like the many Instagram shots we post. But more often than not, we forget the challenges it brings.

Blogging Confessions:

  • Dealing with inner demons and self doubts
  • Comparing yourself to others
  • Having that pressure to always create great content
  • Facing the real world.
  • Ever since Italophilia started, I’ve lost and found myself between these. But mostly facing the real world has been difficult. Why??

Because passion is a word that is hard to understand, it is often misunderstood for craziness and obsession. 

My closest friends whom I banked for support of my blogging journey never encouraged or appreciated me. In fact they simply never cared to accept I was a blogger. I’m not trying to be full of myself but being a niche blogger on Italy in India is seriously hard to find.

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To top it all being all this happened when I was in my late 20s and I kept wondering- did I make the wrong friends?? Why were they self involved?? Were they not real?? Unfortunately I don’t have answers to these but it was all a huge mental setback.

I lost many people whom I didn’t expect to lose and even wrote about something similiar here. Being fully honest with you, in real life today, I can count 2-3 people (barring my immediate family), who support my blogging journey.

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It is difficult to be a blogger- to stand out and be part of a niche.

I’ve begun to realize more and more that what matters in the end is people who support you. People who follow wholeheartedly without expecting zilch- these are my closest pals. I may not have met them but they seem to be there. They are more real to me than my “real friends”. And they have taught me to be okay doing what I want.

  • It is okay to have more downs than ups
  • It is okay not to make big bucks from posts
  • It is okay to be who you want to
  • It is okay to write for yourself
  • It is okay to not be part of the herd
  • It is okay to be vulnerable

It is okay to do what you want.

The enthusiasm to travel to the farthest corners of Italy and discover to meet new places and people is what makes me go on. Remember that my passion lies in the simplest of things- finding a new Italian word, talking to a friend about my favorite TV show or reading about a new type of regional food.

Italophilia is and will always be what it is because of my passion.

I hope that Italophilia will be your go to friend when you want to read about Italy. That my words comfort you when you’re missing those streets and people in the same way I do. I hope you can be inside that nostalgia all day every day like I do. Meanwhile, I will continue to be my usual authentic self and show in your inbox as often as I can. Who knows one day I may be writing another post on confessions but for today this is all I have to say.

 

Until next time,

Ishita

27 thoughts on “Confessions of a Passionate Blogger

  1. I have many friends and also family members who never read my blog. They are not interested, and that is just fine, although it took some getting used to. However, they also do not question or criticize me about it. They simply have no clue or interest in what I write about. (I’m a book blogger with somewhat esoteric taste and so I get that they would not read my blog, as most don’t have time to read books – although I hope that I write in such a way that it’s interesting to read even if you don’t have any intention of reading the book.) I’ve found that often writers are not read by their friends, and I also believe that blogging has changed: so many people write blogs, and they have become less popular. I have always admired your work, being an Italy lover myself, and I think your blog really stands out….you do good work!!

    1. It’s still strange that your closest pals never share/promote or even talk about it and often act as if it never exists! I think because I’ve been trying to make it work as a full time profession I expected more. But what’s done is done.

      I really want to thank you thougg for your appreciation, it means a lot 🙂

      1. It is such a lot of work to do what you do, and you are so good at it. It takes a lot for me to stay faithful to a blog, but you seem to me to have found the perfect niche and slant. Honestly, I think part of the challenge for all of us doing this type of work is that people just don’t have time, or take the time, to read anymore – not even a blog post that takes four minutes to read!

        1. Thank you. It took me a lot of time to find my voice but I did. I’m glad you see that. Yeah, I don’t think it matters if people read but a small support of sharing the post also matters. I understand not everyone will be interested in Italy like I am, but supporting is more important a cause. I’d do it for my best friend even though she didn’t!

  2. I understand how you feel. I think it’s even more important for you because it’s your job, your income as well as your passion. It’s hurtful. I guess Italy is not their thing. They don’t feel any common ground. Take support where you get it – from people who read your blog, and carry on doing what you love. I found it hard that my family hardly ever asked about where I’ve been, they don’t ask to see photos, they certainly don’t read my blog. Now I think – ‘it’s OK’.

    1. I know right?? I guess I’m not the only one facing the situation. Maybe they don’t want to know about the things we write/ do. Like you said Italy isn’t their thing probably and there isn’t any common ground. I know that in some cases it could be jealousy too anyway, Virtual hugs to you xx

  3. And to think I thought I was the only one that had friends who could not care less about my photography or videography! I guess they see us in a different light because they saw us in different ‘shoes’, if you will, so they do not see you as a blogger or me as a photographer. Who knows. I do not have the answer but one thing I do know and that is that YOU have done an amazing job, with your passion.

    You have my 100% support because I love your blog, how you blog and I just wished more people followed you rather than those senseless and fake ‘influencers’ out there. You teach people something new and show them to really appreciate discovering new places, experiences, different lives. You have a knack for writing in a way that it makes you want to keep reading and only one other blogger I know has this gift (Janet).

    So keep doing your thing and know that I love what you do and I am so glad you chose to make Italy your second home! Ciao from an Italian that loves your work!

    1. I agree with you on them seeing us differetnyl but when your close ones don’t appreciate or stay with you, it hurts. And that is the reason you are also not probably taken seriously as a videographer or photographer. Anyway, Thank you so much for always being so kind. Hope to see you in Rome one day!! I seriously would love to have a spritz with you. I’m very touched, it means so much <3

  4. You are 100% right Ishita. You know it’s all ok.
    Blogging is not easy, and definitely comes with the ups and downs, sometimes more downs than ups. But, you have connected with so many wonderful like minded people all over the world, and we all truly appreciate your work and passion for Italy.
    I’m so glad you do what you do, because if you didn’t, I would never have connected with you. Sending you a big hug. Xx

    1. True Lorelle- not easy at all. I absolutely am very grateful about connecting with like minded people such as yourselves. I didn’t want to make it sound ungrateful but it is what it is. No sugar coating.

  5. It is such a lot of work to do what you do, and you are so good at it. It takes a lot for me to stay faithful to a blog, but you seem to me to have found the perfect niche and slant. Honestly, I think part of the challenge for all of us doing this type of work is that people just don’t have time, or take the time, to read anymore – not even a blog post that takes four minutes to read!

  6. I’ve also found that you can’t count on family and friends to appreciate what you do. They have other interests. You have to find your own community, which you have done. At first, it’s sort of surprising and a little sad, but then you get used to it…

  7. Thank you for being so candid! You have said some things that I think many bloggers or anyone following their passion might face. I think it’s so important to support each other in any way possible, big or small. And I also think it’s really important to remember why you started following your passion because it’s so easy to get lost along the way (I know I have on a number of occasions). In the end, do what you love, there will always be someone who appreciates it! 🙂

    1. Thanks Lulu. it wasn’t easy writing it but I had to.. I’m glad you have my back just as I have yours. We do need to support each other and I guess always remind each other that even in our worst days what made us start our blog was Our love for Italy!!

  8. First, I was disappointed that family and friends didn’t read my blog.
    Then, it helped me realize that they are not as important to me as “strangers” who show an interest in my life and my thoughts, some of whom know me much better than my relatives.
    Finally, it gave me the freedom to write about friends and family openly, knowing they don’t read it anyway.

    But it’s also the medium, sadly. A lot of friends follow everything I do on Facebook, but they just don’t understand how to click on a link and read the full story on a blog. Or they do, but then they still comment on Facebook, leaving the blog empty.
    I realize that I have a lot more passive than active readers, because sometimes, someone will mention something that I wrote, although they never commented or never told me that they are reading the blog.

    1. I too was equally disappointed as you Andreas. But you are right about the point of freedom. It makes me feel no one is unintentionally judging me since they aren’t reading. I have most of my family members on my Facebook page too but they too never click on my links. A like usually doesn’t help because like you mentioned these readers being passive, don’t help the blog grow.

  9. How did I even miss this post, Ishita? So sorry because it’s a topic very close to my heart, as you can imagine. Thanks for sending it out again in your newsletter.

    I’m not a blogger yet but I know exactly how it feels to have something you love doing so utterly, make a living out of it and have very few people who get what it is that you’re doing. Most people where I live think I laze about in the house all day when on the contrary, my work days are longer than theirs with the difference that what I do, truly makes my heart sing. I’m never unhappy with my work.

    Have we chosen the wrong friends? How can we be so misunderstood by people IRL?

    But these are the wrong questions. We’re the lucky ones and someday people will catch on to that, Ishita.

    And you, more than others, are a pioneer, doing something original and entirely out of passion. You’re making a difference. Nothing can be compared to that.

    1. Happy to share it again 🙂 I know what you mean about people thinking all you do is laze 🙁 It sucks and to be honest blogging isn’t exactly what I thought it would be. Just as exactly you might have felt about teaching Italian online.

      I do think we have chosen the wrong friends at times. Or maybe they aren’t the real ones. I’m also fortunate to have met virtually and in person too, such lovely people!! You are very kind to call me a pioneer .. THANK YOU!

  10. Keep that independent spirit! Make yourself vulnerable. Others might not respond they way you wish they would but when you lay it all out for others to see, they will see themselves in you.

  11. Just be yourself. Don’t worry about the rest.

    I live in Texas, USA. I am visiting my family in Amritsar, India. Having a great time re-connecting with my family. Other than visiting my family, my favorite country to vacation in is Italy. I have been there several times. Before I plan my next Italian trip, I will visit your blog again for tips that I can use. I have some Italian followers who want to host me. I am looking forward to such a generous and awesome opportunity. I better find the time to learn how to speak Italian.

    Keep writing !!!

    1. Thank you for reading the old posts 🙂 Happy to help you with any tips. Which part of Italy are you visiting?? The people of Italy are lovely xx Grazie a buon viaggio.

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